Well, I’ve written and re-written this post about 100 times now. I’m a little nervous to put this out there into the world for fear that brides, moms and wedding industry people will beat down my door for saying what I feel. But it’s been on my mind for a while and it’s time we discuss the elephant in the room…. That giant anxiety-inducing, envy-inducing elephant named Pinterest.
How it all began. I’m not sure if it’s still like this…but even signing up for Pinterest was like getting into some sort of elite club. You had to get an invitation from a friend to get in. Like everyone else, I signed up for a pinterest account and immediately pinned every recipe, diy project, gardening tutorial, paint sample, nursery, bathub cleaning tutorial, chalkboard paint how-to, and decorating must-do that I could find. I was hooked and addicted. I was going to diy everything. Our house was finally going to look like it came out of a magazine. My office was going to become a space that would make Martha Stewart envious. I was going to make our laundry detergent. Our baby was going to live in a nursery like the one Frank designed on Father of the Bride Part II. I finally had a place to save all of my creative ideas.
And then I realized. None of these ‘creative ideas’ were my ideas. In fact, most of everything I had pinned wasn’t even me. I’m sorry… I’m just not going to put 3 drops of essential oil on my toilet paper roll so that the scent of jasmine fills the air when I need to…you know… wipe. And that is something I literally pinned. It’s still pinned. Here’s the thing… Pinterest is great for a lot of things. But you have to be careful with how you use it. I just truly thank God that Pinterest wasn’t around when I was planning our wedding. I’m quite sure Dusty and my room mates would have had to give me an intervention. I know there are some of you that have a ‘Someday’ board. You know the one…’Someday I’ll get married and I have to have my wedding planned out before that happens board’ and you’ve started pinning every bouquet, engagement session, invitation and dress you can find. When did we become obsessed with making our weddings these giant productions?
Being a bride right now is not easy. There are 7000 decisions to make and 1 million beautiful, creative things you can do for your wedding. If you don’t make your centerpieces by hand and include mason jars you feel like your wedding won’t be as amazing as your best friend’s. I’m totally going to sound like a crotchety old woman right now…but here goes…All that should matter is that you’re marrying the person you’re supposed to be with. Right? Isn’t that the whole point of getting married? Don’t get me wrong…I LOVE all the details. I love the flowers, the centerpieces, the banners, the jewelry and the ring bearer pillow just as much as the next person. I love taking pictures of all those details! But I’m just saying it can also become too much if you’re not careful.
Being a mom right now isn’t easy either. You feel like people are judging your every move as a parent. If you don’t dress your child in the best clothes, cut their sandwiches into shapes, teach them Mandarin and feed them kale then you’re a failure. God forbid their birthday party isn’t perfectly themed and color coordinated. They might grow up and hate you!
My point is. Just be true to yourself.
I feel like this most of the time.
Can we just give ourselves a break? And each other a break?
If you’re not a DIYer. Can I just tell you that’s OK? 🙂 It really is!
Don’t get me wrong. I’m amazed at what some people have done. Pinterest can really be a place to gather some great ideas, spark your own ideas and help you clear the clutter in your life. But you have to take ownership in how you use it. Don’t get addicted. It can really give you anxiety and make you feel ‘less than’ if you’re not careful. I love Pinterest for many reasons and I’m absolutely using it for business related things and personal. I don’t hate it. I just hate how it makes us feel sometimes.
There is no win in comparison. We are who we are. God made us all different. And instead of embracing that we all struggle each day to try to become more like everyone around us. We’re constantly looking to our left and to our right to make sure we’re measuring up to everyone else. Andy Stanley calls it The Comparison Trap. And it’s just that– a trap.
Whew. It feels good to get this off my chest. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way! In fact, I know I’m not because I’ve talked to many people about this who agree. Come back tomorrow for my thoughts on how we can effectively use Pinterest. As always, these thoughts are just my two cents. Would love to hear what everyone else thinks!